meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • This would be a great birthday gift for someone who’s interested in working on their photography skills, loves to travel and already owns the Fjallraven bookbag (Urban Outfitters)
  • The Best Coffee In Every State (Food & Wine)
  • A New Study Says Gardening Is Just as Good as Going to the Gym – It does some amazing things for your mental health, too! (Martha Stewart)
  • Mom and I hiked near enough to see it’s glory in person and realize we have no business getting any closer (The Dawn Wall Film)
  • Outsourcing adulthood: Who knew that the defining feature of my generation would be our ability to break down cardboard boxes? (The Cut)
  • The bag you carry to the store matters far less than what you carry home inside it and how. Walking or cycling versus driving, and buying locally grown food and less meat will be what actually makes a difference. (The Kitchn)
  • Fashionable outfits for working from home (New Yorker)
  • Barre videos on YouTube (well+good)
  • Internet Boy Band Database… you are welcome (The Pudding)
  • It’s Looking Cloudy (Uncommon Goods)
  • Guilty… I totally prematurely retweeted this, all while signing Soundgarden in my head (NYT)
  • We’re going to this, right:

Have a beautiful weekend!

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david : version 10.0

Just two months short of turning thirty I became a mom and now, ten years later, I am about to turn forty and realizing that the thirties was a rollercoaster ride filled with high, low, fun, scary, sickening, exhilarating, pukey and amazing moments. It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, but I’m happy to report mothering is well worth the ride (so far).

In celebration of David’s tenth birthday tomorrow, here are ten things I’ve learned in ten years of parenting:

1. It goes by so fast or at least that’s what everyone always says. In the big picture, yes but it certainly does not feel that way some days. Like when you’re stuck inside on a rainy day or playing the board game LIFE. Tick, tick, tick.

2. Explore local, travel far. We try and take David on as many trips as possible. He’s pretty lucky and has been to more places than I did by age thirty. It’s not always fun, and certainly not easy, but he’s a kid that learns best by experiences than by the book. Plus, learning how to run through an airport is an important life skill.

3. Get outside. When things go wrong, get outside. As a baby, whenever he’d cry, we’d take him outside – the sky would calm him down. He feeds off sunshine and fresh air; I have no idea who he gets this from.

4a. To each their own. “When are you going to have kids,” “when are you going to have a second,” “you can’t just have one”… We all get our own collection of questions and comments thrown at us. I spent a lot of time reminding myself that it’s what’s best for us, not what’s best for everyone else.
4b. We all have our own battles. David and I struggled with nursing that was my first battle and there have been many more since. No kid is perfect, and no parent has it all figured out. There is no one is judgier than a mom and I can’t say I know how to deal with this, but it made my first year of mothering hard. How I felt, is not how I want anyone else to feel, so I have learned to shut my mouth and let each mom fight their fight.

5. Just set one goal. Each day, each week, each year. Don’t expect too much from your kid and be pleasantly surprised when they overachieved.

6. Lead by example can be both good and bad. I love that David loves sports and being active; however, I am not so proud of his potty mouth. No one to blame but me, I fucked that up.

7. They will excel at some stuff and suck at a lot of other things, but let them try new things. You never know what will spark their fire.

8. Your fears are not their fears. The thought of forming a beatboxing group and performing at the school talent show scares the hell out of me… I can barely handle a conference call but, I appreciate that David follows the no guts no glory philosophy. I hope it sticks, being shy sucks. (note: I should add that your goals are not their goals but I’d be a hypocrite because I’d love for him to excel and math or make the 2030 Olympic Team…)

9. SWIM! It was the only must-do expectation from us. At five months old we tossed him in the pool, and he’s been going strong ever since. We live in Nova Scotia: Canada’s Ocean Playground – it’d be a shame to be beached. Plus, I keep telling him, I wish had been a lifeguard instead of being a hostess at the Honey Garlic Buffet when I was young.

10. Sit back, spectate and enjoy the ride. Now that we’re ten years in, I try and avoid hovering as much as possible from what he wears (questionable) to how he interacts with others (questionable). I’m channeling the free-range vibe and hoping he figures things out on his own. I trust him and most of the time, David has proven that he’s capable of making smart decisions.

Happy birthday David! xomeg

meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • 5 Reasons I’ve Implemented a 4 Day Work Week (A Fabulous Fete)
  • Redesign (design milk)
  • I learnt learned alot a lot (The Everygirl)
  • Nothing in American society — not parental leave policies, medical care, research funding, work culture, or product design — is set up to help parents feed their children breast milk. Changing that will require reimagining not just the pump itself, but the entire culture around work and family. (Vox)
  • Sobriety Made Me a Better Cook, and Cooking Keeps Me Sober (The Kitchn)
  • And Millennials Are Sick of Drinking But they’re not giving up booze just yet (The Atlantic)
  • Patagonia is starting to weed out certain corporate clients to focus on customers that “prioritize the planet” (San Francisco Chronicle)
  • Serious Food: In the Kitchen with Grandma (Bon Appétempt)
  • A worldwide directory of playgrounds based on your location in an easy to read map. (Say Yes)
  • Hindsight 2070: We asked 15 experts, “What do we do now that will be considered unthinkable in 50 years?” Here’s what they told us. (VOX)
  • The Whopper is getting a makeover … Impossible! (Kottke)
  • And thoughts on this: What’s Next After Plant-Based? Clean Meat Grown From Animal Cells (Forbes)
  • 5, 7, 11, 20 (BuzzFeed)
  • IF I was ever to live through a renovation again, I’d want it to turn out like this (design milk)

Have a beautiful weekend!

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