fifty is the new forty

Two years ago I launched a very ambitious list of forty things to do before forty. Here I am, turning forty in three days and as I review my accomplishments, the big lesson I learned is that things don’t always go as planned. Who could have predicted the Footloose video tutorial I was practicing daily would one day suddenly disappear from Vimeo!

Last year I checked in at the half-way point (aka 39) with a progress report and sadly, not much more action has happened since. I hate making excuses but I feel a bit derailed right now and frankly, these last 6 months have sucked. So, I look at this as an opportunity to scrape myself off the ground and move forward. I’ve been told that the forties are better than the thirties so I am editing the list. I wrote this on a whim, giving myself only two years, which was not so smart. Adding another ten years is something a mature woman of her forties would do. Let’s not rush the good times!

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  1. Take piano lessons (I quit after one year – my sisters are beautiful players and I’ve come to regret dropping out).
  2. See Hawaii – it has been my dream to take David to Hawaii for his 10th birthday since the day he was born. He will turn 10 less than two months before my 40th so the timing will be tight but I am sure Mike can make this happen. (*We’re going this month!)
  3. Make some pottery – take a class.
  4. Get a tattoo. Hah! Where the heck did that come from?
  5. Make a move. Not sure if it will be my career or school or a move to the country but I like the idea.
  6. Sail away – even if it’s just around the Armdale.
  7. WALLPAPER my itty bitty bathroom.
  8. Bangs. Try them out.
  9. Rent a cottage with some lady-friends for +2 nights and drink way too much wine.
  10. Snorkle. Ideally off the Florida Keys. With Kyle Chandler.
  11. Get up on stage (or a podium).
  12. Buy a silk blouse. I’m thinking a nice deep midnight blue button down.
  13. Try Whole 30. It’s just 30 days… how terrible can it be?
  14. Sip sweet tea in the South like a Georgia Peach.
  15. Take tennis lessons.
  16. Go to the ballet in a big city.
  17. Get eyelash extensions.
  18. Make a batch of wine. I promise, it won’t be low class and I promise I will not force you to drink it.
  19. Run a Spring marathon (I’ve run marathons in September, October and November only)
  20. Get a new personal best in a marathon (which would be sub 3:56:00)
  21. Learn and perform the full Footloose dance.
  22. Try snowboarding *again.
  23. Buy watercolours. Watercolour.
  24. Attend an epic festival, concert or event (like Mardi Gras, The Beach Boys in California, Running of the Bulls, etc.)
  25. Donate plasma.
  26. Ride in a helicopter (ideally while visiting #2)
  27. Volunteer.
  28. Get a reading done by a psychic medium.
  29. Go to a drive-in movie.
  30. Explore a new country.
  31. Read a novel in one weekend.
  32. Take a solo vacation.
  33. Host a holiday dinner or a murder mystery party.
  34. Change a tire. Change the oil. Learn these skills.
  35. Scoot around on a scooter and end up at the ocean.
  36. Attend a retreat or workshop of some sort.
  37. Dip my toes in Lake Louise.
  38. Complete the World Marathon Majors (halfway there!)
  39. Which means I need to qualify for Boston.
  40. Train a puppy.
  41. Take a photography class.
  42. Vacation afar with Erin and Jill.
  43. Attend a retreat. Who’s in?
  44. Stay overnight in an A-Frame.
  45. Go line dancing in Texas.
  46. Choose a cookbook, cook everything.
  47. Have an (all day) spa day with friends.
  48. Choose an actor and watch their full IMDB profile (current contenders: Michael B. Jordan or Winona Ryder)
  49. Launch something… New website, new project. Who knows?
  50. Open water swim in water deeper than me.

Later 39.

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meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • 2040 Join The Regeneration
  • And… ‘Now I Am Speaking to the Whole World.’ How Teen Climate Activist Greta Thunberg Got Everyone to Listen (TIME)
  • MAYcember Medley: How to survive end of school year (YouTube)
  • What makes you come alive? Yes, Katie! “Little girls walking belly-forward. Going to sleep when it’s raining outside. Drinking morning coffee with loved ones, the day after Thanksgiving or on vacation. Kids starting sentences with, “When I was little…’” (A Cup Of Jo)
  • I’m just a girl who loves an A-Frame (Poppytalk)
  • Going to read this and this after I see the movie. Can’t wait!
  • The crocodile and ten of him endangered friends (It’s Nice That)
  • One of the top-10 reasons why I never want to work in an office again = uncontrolled AC and desk cardigans (CBS)
  • Smoothing skin and making people skinny in Photoshop is a horrible reflection on society / Literally, no client will ever complain if you skillfully smooth their skin or make them skinnier + 75 more life rules for photographers (Light Stalking)
  • My results are in: Congratulations, you are so Gen X-adjacent, or at least so Gen X-indoctrinated, that you’re not even really a millennial (NYT)
  • Allow Me to Convince You to Take a Lunch Break Today… Not just the title of this article! (Man Repeller)

It’s the first weekend in June, I sure hope it sparks joy!

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meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • Why You Should Start Celebrating Your ‘Near Wins’ (Shine)
  • “Getting pregnant is the kiss of death for a female athlete,” Nike Told Me to Dream Crazy, Until I Wanted a Baby
    (NYT)
  • It May Not Be a Bad Thing Fewer U.S. Babies Were Born in 2018 Than in Any Year Since 1986  (Times)
  • 44 percent of Bob Ross’s paintings contain at least one “happy little cloud.” 116 Amazing Facts for People Who Like Amazing Facts (Mental Floss)
  • Banana Coconut Muffins. Yes please. (Cookie+Kate)
  • Can I use the soy sauce in my Airbnb fridge?  For what, your coffee? Massage oil? Get freaky, you’re on vacation, Susan! Plus more food etiquette (Bon Appetite)
  • We froze the salaries of 20 executives – and it improved the lives of 500 employees (The Guardian)
  • Was it because the movie Dolphin Tale was really really sad or was it likely a combination of oxygen deprivation, dehydration, and stress that made me cry like a baby? (Popular Science)
  • If we’re going to talk about those murders, we should be talking about the women who were murdered and stop using them as plot devices to glorify evil men (Crime Reads)
  • Ten Books That Will Help You Escape Reality This Summer (Bloomberg)
  • Dreamy (Found Color)

It’s the weekend, game on!

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