meanwhile, elsewhere

It’s Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • Be honest, do you have something like this prepared? And I am not talking about a surplus of toilet paper. (lifehacker)
  • And speaking of toilet paper, this is a very emotional piece about tubeless wipes. Grab a (clean) tissue and read on (NYT)
  • What’s the line between parents/schools/society trying to scale back ac­ademic pressure and children not needing to be accountable for much these days? Optional spelling tests, meal choices, no-win-games—it’s all very confusing. (Motherwell)
  • I need to rework my bucket list: 12 Life Goal Categories (Glide)
  • Cool job posting: Lower Manhattan Explorer in Chief
  • I’m not one to judge—it could have been me (Vice)
  • Lots of juicy information here including Write at the right time. Sharing something at 5pm may keep someone at work longer. You may have some spare time on a Sunday afternoon to write something, but putting it out there on Sunday may pull people back into work on the weekends. Early Monday morning communication may be buried by other things. There may not be a perfect time, but there’s certainly a wrong time. Keep that in mind when you hit send. (Basecamp)
  • “Leaving and Waving,” is nearly three decades of good-byes traditions—the photographer’s parent’s waving goodbye as she drives away. (New Yorker)
  • I feel like this would entice me to drink way more wine… also, does anyone else think that those who purchase this are not needing their wine to stay preserved for 90 days? (Design Milk)
  • Still not watching Love Is Blind but very much relate to the emotions of TV watching (Man Repeller)
  • “Can I Sub This For That?” … NO! (bon appetite)
  • How to make a zine from a single sheet of paper (Austin Kleon)
  • So working from home is a #privilege. I am #blessed. True, but before you jump on board, let me tell you, it ain’t always sunshine and good times—especially when you’re freelancing and not riding on the perks of a company. (NYT)

Happy March Break—we’re heading out on our annual Sunday River adventure… maybe… not sure at this point because the news is moving fast. Faster than the virus. I’ve been asked 1,000 times in the last week if we’re still going and it’s stressing me out. Kind of like when you’re pregnant and everyone has an opinion… everyone has an opinion about this. The thing is, I don’t think there is a right answer because no one knows what’s (and where) going to happen next. If we stay home, Mike could be just as likely to catch it in his office of 200 people or what about all the camps and daycares.

It’s a shitshow out there and perhaps skiing, outside, with a balaclava covering our faces may be the smartest decision for all. That said, I’m not meaning to sound like a selfish prick—if need be, we will turn the car around—if need be, we will self-quarantine—if need be, we will stay home and do as we are told. I hope everyone is extra kind this weekend. Be safe and fucking wash your hands!


meanwhile, elsewhere

It’s Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • Access to menstrual products is a right! Period. Bravo Scotland. (NPR)
  • How our solo homes became cocoonsThe idea of making a home into a place for others, as opposed to one’s self, is falling out of style (curbed)
  • I went to a nice store I’d never been inside before and I tried something on. The clerk asked me what the occasion was. I found out from Facebook that my ex-boyfriend was dating Lady Gaga, I told her, and she looked me up and down. “Huh,” she said. “Really?” Yes. The dress was too expensive, but I bought it anyway. Why should I accept less than Lady Gaga?—My Ex-Boyfriend’s New Girlfriend Is Lady Gaga (NYT)
  • I’m a fan of the author above who’s ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend is Lady Gago, I’ve read a lot of her other articles in The New York Times including I Am 35 and Running Faster Than I Ever Thought Possible (NYT)
  • Whoa! Stop everything, did y’all know there’s a savoury version of a cinnamon roll? Get in my belly ASAP. (Candid Appetite)
  • Here’s when you should (and shouldn’t) trust your gut (Fast Company)
  • What aspects of my life are having the most positive/negative affect on my work?—What aspects of my work are having the most positive/negative affect on my life? (Medium)
  • 5 Very Smart Ways to Use Frozen Hash Browns (Bon Appetit) and Tator Tots are the perfect party appetizer! (A Cup of Jo)
  • All you need is a good idea and then execute. Old camper trailers are big business (thanks Kristin)(Tinker Tin)
  • How ultrarunners are pushing the human body beyond all limits (Wired)
  • What Happened to the Company That Raised Minimum Wage to $70k/yr? As it turns out, things are going pretty damn well (Kottke)
  • This one will definitely be in season 2 of Modern Love: Life Isn’t Like the Movies (Even if You Write the Movies)—A director of romantic comedies finds herself attending weddings with her ex-husband. Who wrote this script? (Modern Love NYT)
  • Hang on, we’re going for a deep dive: After posting this recipe a few weeks ago, my friend recommended I try the Internet-Famous Chickpea Stew. I actually just bought Alison Roman’s cookbook (Nothing Fancy) because that’s totally my style of cooking. I discovered her from a podcast episode (gee thanks, just bought it!) and now think we all need a Matfer Bourgeat Nylon Dough Scraper
  • And if you’re wondering who the heck is Alson Roman, she’s the one breaking the internet apparently (Vox)
  • And here’s the stew (thanks Malcolm)
  • Don’t bother asking me if I’ve watched Love is Blind because the answer is no.
  • The Kids in the Hall to Return to Amazon With New Episodes (VOX)


Be a Lady They Said

Have you watched this?

A twitter post came to my attention last night:

Although I am not actively seeking employment, I read the posting because it’s very much in my field of work. My original thought was that I qualify for 95% of this job but I can’t/won’t apply because I don’t know Sketch. Should this stop me? Would it stop you?

Reading through the tread brought on some thoughts and feels. Mostly, why are men so fucking confident? Why do women care so much about comparing their abilities to others and stepping down when others try and step up? But, what resonated with me the most was the following comment from Cathleen:


“…it reframed the expectations and resulted in many more women applying”

We can’t expect people to be efficient in everything and companies can’t expect to find people who fit the mould of five different jobs.

It’s not only the interviewee but the interviewer that needs to change!

A while back I applied for a dream job (a not-for-profit organization that sends sick kids to camp) and failed miserably in the interview. As we were talking, I quickly realized I was not in fact 80% qualified—I was more like 60% qualified. Their job description wasn’t clear and I panicked. Rather than fighting for myself, I talked myself down and out of a chance at the job. I am really good at this and wonder if I went in knowing how my abilities matched up, I could have sounded more confident and willing/able to learn the 40% I was missing.

*News alert: Not all designers are also writers who dabble in HTML and can do some grant writing on the side*  

I often think about how I’ve dealt with this and other blows to my career and have realized I need to stop underestimating my abilities. I have thought about reaching out to the organization again and asking if we can grab a coffee and talk. They may not be hiring and I may not be looking but my heart is in it and I often wish I could have a re-do.

What about you?

Have you been mentored? Do you have a network of support?

My fellow self-employed friend and I are talking about joining forces for occasional meetups. Working from home can be tough (and lonely) and since we don’t have company benefits that pay for therapy and mentorship, the cost of a cup of coffee may be worth more than gold.

All this, or I’ll just leave it all behind and work at the coffee shop.