stop, jammer time

I have Christmas on my mind… specifically cute matching pajamas.

My niece and nephew are coming up from New York for the holidays and we love dressing the kids in matching PJs. There is nothing more adorable than letting them each open ONE present on Christmas eve and then watching their disappointment when it’s just PJs. We take some photos and send them to bed.

Here are some of my favourites I found online:


A. Holiday Stripes / B. Navy Moose / C. Thermal & Fleece / D. Scandinavian  / E. Festive Sleep Set / F. Penguins / G. Green Stripes / H. Polar Bears / I. Elf Uniform / J. Oh What Fun / K. Constellations / L. Elf / M. Fairisle PJs / N. Red Stripes / O. Glow-in-the-dark Lights

Oh and I couldn’t resist picking out a new pair for me… after all, ’tis the season for working on your own wish list!


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lonely boy

Remember Lonely Boy from Gossip Girl? That’s not what I am talking about, but good show! il_570xN.468504829_h0vv

I am in awe by people who seem to know how many kids they want and I feel like two is the magic number for most.

I am from a family of three and as a kid (middle), I swore I’d never have three kids. Four seemed much more sensible and I’d have two girls and two boys. I do not recall the boy’s names but the girls would be Connie and Victoria. Fast forward a few years and things changed. Two kids seemed doable but then I had David and for the most part, right now I think one is a great place to stay.

To be fair to my child, there is nothing he did to make me rethink having a second and I am not totally saying a second won’t happen but time is ticking and is life is good.

David is five and I’ve noticed I rarely get asked these days if I am having a second. When he was one… two… three… and even four I got asked a lot! I hated hearing “you can’t just have one”, “you need to give David a sibling”, “that’s not fair to your child”. REALLY people?

Why can’t you? Why is two so much better?

There are good and bad things about siblings. I love(!!) my sisters but the best thing I ever heard from an only child was “you don’t miss what you never had”. I never had a brother but I also never had cable tv as a kid… I missed the cable more than having a brother. Sure, a brother could be great but a brother could also be a big jerk.

As I said, from pure observation, a two-kid family seems like the safe spot – a place of least judgement and as we all know these days, it’s all about the judgement!

The Childless: You are selfish! Do you not like kids? / The Onlies: You’ll have a spoiled brat! / Parent’s of three: Now you’ve out-numbered yourself, what were you thinking? / Parent’s of four or more: Are you crazy or super religious or both?

So what are the Pros to an only child? Here are a few I came up with:

  • Education! Daycare! Sports! Travel! Oh my. News flash, Kids are expensive!
  • You have more space. One kid = one room and when they’re done with a toy, you haul it out of the house and move on.
  • We have the time and energy to read at night together and can both attend his games, events and parent-teacher meetings if we want to. No need to worry about managing time for the other child.
  • If we think David will be bored on the weekend or on an outing we can bring a friend. Borrowing a child is cheaper than owning a child in the long run. Plus you get to return them when you are done.
  • In exchange, when someone takes our child, we are child free!
  • We have room in our backseat for our dog and room in our trunk for the junk. And by car, I mean car. Not a mini-van.
  • It’s easier to find a FREE babysitter for one kid. More kids are more work and free babysitters may be more reluctant.
  • You do not have to worry about dividing up food, money and love.
  • Did I mention travel? Plane tickets are hella expensive. So are museums and eating out.

What are the Cons?

  • You bought all of this stuff for your baby/kid and are now stuck either donating, selling or giving away a lot of perfectly good things.
  • Family passes! They usually cover a family of four. Families of five or more pay additional so why can’t we pay less?
  • Guilt, yah I have guilt but what mom doesn’t? I feel bad when he’s bored and I can’t find a friend to borrow for him.
  • The future. Will he wish he had a sibling to pawn us off on when we’re really old? Will he wish he had someone to bitch with about the crazy parents? No doubt.
  • Wasted good names. Yah, I have a name bank. Names I’ve held on to just in case I have a second. They’re awesome and may never be used.
  • Pressure. As Eminem said “You only get one shot”. Damn, we better not screw it up.

Now that most of my friends are at a place where they’ve settled on their family head count, I have secretly made a club. I call it the Onlies Club and if you have an only child (for whatever reason), you are in! I will admit, sometimes I sigh a little when I find out I’ve lost a member. I like to think of us as a united bunch going against the norm and raising spoiled brats together. Or at least we can simultaneously roll our eyes at the people who assume our brats are spoiled. You know what I am saying.

Let me know if you are an only child or only have one child. I would love to hear all about it. For me, finding new onlies is like finding coins in your couch! Or, let me know if you are still undecided or set in your ways. I am always fascinated by people who do not overthink Every Damn Thing.

In the meantime, here is some online reading I found for people who may be thinking about only one…

Photo: Invisiblecrown’s Lonely Boy notebook

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leaving it to the pro

I’ve been thinking about an update to David’s room as he’s now four and it’d be fun to make a change to what’s going on in there. David’s room is small, like all of the rooms upstairs, (10×10 ish) and it has a teeny-tiny closet. The room was done before he was born so it’s somewhat neutral (although you can tell I had an inkling it was a boy = pale blue walls and orange accents).

I thought it’d be fun to show David twelve themes of boyish bedding… after all, he’s the pro when it comes to what four-year-old boys are into these days. Let’s just say, our tastes differ a bit but that’s to be expected.


all snapshots are from The Land of Nod!

Drum rolllllll, and the winner is “oh-bouy” – nautical, boats, beach, blue, red, grey and yellow. Shall we dive in?

The number one item on my (David’s) wish list are bunk-beds! What kid doesn’t want an extra spot for sleepovers? In a small room, you need to maximize your vertical space too! Also, it’s important to not overdue the theme too much – no need for sea sickness.

Boys Room

Here’s the low-down

  • A: Neutral curtains over an existing pull-shade.
  • B: A fun coastline bed-side light.
  • C:  These wall hooks are the best – I actually have a few spots in my home where i’d happily hang these guys!  Should I buy in bulk?
  • D/G: A slim teak desk and a foldable chair will leave less clutter but offers a space for homework.
  • E: A rug, which matches the curtains, will warm up the room.
  • F: Fun linens with a pop of colour!
  • H/I: Books books and more books – the nightstand and the red caddy will fill up.​
  • J/K:  Matching bed and dresser.
  • L:  With a desk long dresser, bunk-beds and a nightstand, there is no room to sit – so a pouf will float around nicely and act as a seat or table.
  • M: Wire bins – for socks, toys, and whatever else can be put in there, rather than on the floor!
  • N: The small closet will turn into open shelves – boys don’t need to hang much, so let’s maximize some storage space and use funky neon green shelves.
  • O: What nautical room is complete without a pipe-smoking seagull?
  • P: The world map – not THAT nautical, but I think every kids needs to know where they stand in this big ol’ world of ours.
  • Q/R/S/U: A sham to match the linens, a nautical quilt, an anchor pillow and a flag throw pillow completes the theme and can easily be swapped out when/if his taste changes.
  • T: Some fun desk decor.

So when is this happening? Probably not right away because landscaping is at the top of our list but it’s fun to have plan. – xomeg

oh, and just so you know, here’s what the room looks like now


psst… The Alphabet and Number prints will find a new home downstairs… technically I purchased them for my baby-to-be, but knew they’d always have a place on my walls regardless of what happened to the nursery.

ahoy matey, there’s a party going on right here

David’s fourth birthday has wrapped up and I will call it a success. For his first birthday we had a house party with a lot of babies, friends and family and our little home was overwhelmed – so much so, that I skipped having a party for birthday two. Birthday three was right before our house renovation so we rented the neighbourhood pool and had a party there – great idea!

davids first

Now that the house is done, we decided to stay at home this year and have some kids over. With a four year old, I’ve had to accept a few things…
1. Who to invite – it’s not about me, it’s David’s list of friends.
2. Theme – it’s not about me, it’s what David likes.
3. Decorations – store-bought can be TACKY, homemade is time-consuming – mix it up.

The list of friends was made (seven is a doable number right?) and the theme was chosen – Hide-and-Seek in the Dark! But after some consideration, I was worried hide-and-seek may not work. Kids hiding in the dark, in your house, waiting to be found may lead to tears and bruises. I convinced David to go with a treasure hunt theme instead, in which all of the kids can search together for their treat bags. We would add flashlights and maps and go “overboard” with pirate décor.​



The original plan was to search the park and end up back at the house but rain was in the forecast, so at the eleventh hour, I redesigned the map.

Kids can make a mess and at this age and most of the parents come too so you need to plan for both ages and accept that your house will be in shambles within 10 minutes. Why did I clean our house all day? We wanted there to be a bit of darkness so we planned for an evening event. Things to consider:
1. 5-8 pm is too long and too late – should have been 4-7 pm.
2. 4 large pizzas were too much – who spends time eating when there are homes to destroy?
3. Adults like beer – buy more next time.


The good thing about our little family is I LOVE to plan parties but I am not a great host… I’d rather be a fly on the wall. Mike however, is great with kids and taking over at game-time. He led the kids through the house and I must say, it was pretty adorable watching all of them follow behind with their maps and headlights. This was the only planned part of the evening – the rest of the time, was spent playing on their own, which makes sense for this age (planned events for four and five year olds are not worth the effort).



Not sure what birthday five will bring – but I am already excited. –xo-meg

David, Ava, Libby and Liam

David, Ava, Libby and Liam

capturing moments


It’s our last day of vacation in Florida (let’s not count the travel day tomorrow). We’ve had a blast… and I will be the first to admit, Florida is damn F I N E. This trip was not on my radar of places to go but our friends convinced us, and I am glad they did! I love California, I dream of living there in all its sunny glory however I have now made a little room in my heart for the east coast (Gulf Coast). HELLO SUNSHINE. Hello warm. Hello Florida.

I am in denial that we’ve barely entered Spring back home. It’s going to be cold and dreary. Dirty and brown. I think I need to start thinking positive thoughts and write lists of ‘things to do’ when it eventually warms up. I have a hard time imagining people live is this climate all year. People say you’d miss the seasons… really? Not so sure about that! I will take sunscreen over snow pants. Humidity > windchill. I would have a yard with a pool, a few palm trees and an ocean in walking distance. Bien sur!

Aden, David and Ava on Anna Maria Island

Aden, David and Ava on Anna Maria Island

But enough day dreaming for now… I will edit the 150 + photos and focus on capturing some great moments back home. -xo-meg

​backyard bliss but it's just our rental.

​backyard bliss but it’s just our rental.