North of 40 Reflections

Hey, midlife, hey! I’m checking in to see if there’s been any progress on my Fifty Before Fifty bucket list, especially since I need to get at least one item checked off the list this summer (#28). As you may recall, this list was originally the Forty Before Forty bucket list, with ten more items added on my 40th birthday.

Today, on my 43rd birthday, I can’t help but laugh at my pre-COVID naïveté, when my biggest setback was the loss of the Footloose video tutorial on VimeoWho would have known the world was about to shut down for two years!?! Actually, not even the psychic medium Jill and I visited in 2019 – Edna neglected to mention the upcoming global pandemic (see #28)

Anyway, despite COVID, here are the EIGHT items I have done in the past three years:

  • See Hawaii – it has been my dream to take David to Hawaii for his 10th birthday since the day he was born. He will turn 10 less than two months before my 40th so the timing will be tight but I am sure Mike can make this happen.
Our 40-40-10 birthday adventure to Maui
  • WALLPAPER my itty bitty bathroom.
They’re stickers, not wallpaper but I am counting it.
  • Snorkle. Ideally off the Florida Keys. With Kyle Chandler.
Not the Florida Key and without Kyle Chandler but I think off the coast of Maui is good enough
  • Run a Spring marathon (I’ve run marathons in September, October and November only
It was a long painful journey to get to the finish!
  • Ride in a helicopter (ideally while visiting #2)
Did it, done it, never again. I almost peed my pants but it was an amazing way to see Maui
  • Get a reading done by a psychic medium.
Jill and I are still waiting to see accurate results
  • Go to a drive-in movie.
  • Train a puppy.
Trained is used loosely

So onward I go. The forties are not so bad despite all the required stretching!

Check out the full list here I think I have about 28 more items to do.

meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

Y’all, it’s been a minute – or a month – since I last posted a Friday Finds post. Sorry, May was bonkers-busy! Let’s see – what did I miss, online:

  • Promising early review of the latest Sally Rooney adaptation ‘Conversations With Friends’ for all the fans of Normal People. You know who you are, wink. (Instagram)
  • Saying “No” with Grace (Jocelyn K Glei)
  • Fantasies I Have About My Kids Getting Older (Cup Of Jo)
  • Required uniform for #89. Drift down a river (Dazed)
  • How to recover from a bad or disappointing race (The Runner’s Plate) *Speaking of which, I need to write a Sugarloaf Marathon Race Recap!
  • And maybe I should retire from running and focus on Hot-Girl Walks (The Cut)
  • Although, stay consistent, stay persistent and stay in motion (NYT)
  • I’m into Sharon’s Drawing Shop (Etsy)
  • Emergency
  • Selfish choices – The kind moms aren’t supposed to make (Evil Witches)
  • Awesome wallpaper alert! (Cup Of Jo)
  • And I am currently reading her book, All Adults Here
  • Could this be the perfect Summer mocktail? (Kate la vie)
  • My worst nightmare (Reductress)
  • How “slow down” momfluencer content reframes domestic labor as self-care (Sara Petersen)
  • The Impractical Pleasure of Eating Fish and Chips on the Beach (Bon Appetite). Mental Note: Add to next year’s list.

And if you missed it, here’s the 2022 100 Days of Summer bucket list


100 Days of Summer

Year nine, and all is fine! (mostly). The 100 Days of Summer Bucket List is back, baby, so let’s dive in. Lots of my favourite summer things are on the list, with a few new sweet treats added.

As always, the rules are simple, summer starts this weekend and ends on the last day of September. So hit me up if you want to join in on one of these adventures.

100 Days of Summer 2022

  1. Take a dip in a lake, in the river, in the ocean
  2. Make a pie at least once every month
  3. Hike the Mi’kmawey Debert Interpretive Trail
  4. Hike to the Carbide Willson Ruins
  5. Dip my toes into Halifax Harbour at the staircase
  6. Run to the Bike and Bean
  7. Have a picnic
  8. Go trail running
  9. Cook campfire Kraft Dinner
  10. Meet Jill for a lunch walk
  11. Bike to Tatamagouche on the trail
  12. Eat s’mores
  13. Leave the province
  14. Enjoy some Cape Breton pastries
  15. Visit a lavender farm
  16. Dilly dally over to Dilly Dally on Sarah’s lunch break
  17. Bike around the city
  18. Paddleboard
  19. Run the Muffin Run
  20. Run the Cabot Trail
  21. Swing off the river rope
  22. Jump off Flat Rock
  23. Join the #tinyheartclub
  24. Skip practice, go to Garrison for a beer! 
  25. Stand outside in a summer rainstorm
  26. Sleep in a tent
  27. Set out on a walk – meet a friend halfway
  28. Check-off one thing on the Fifty Before Fifty list
  29. Eat at the Willard, Fox Harb’r
  30. Go for a beach walk
  31. Night swim
  32. Swim in my aunt’s pond
  33. Ontario wine tasting
  34. Go sailing
  35. Work outside
  36. Visit Sara Bonnyman Pottery in Tatamagouche
  37. Make jam or marmalade
  38. Neighbourhood stalk a new neighbourhood
  39. Stroll along the waterfront
  40. Read a book on the beach
  41. Have a post-run Farmer’s Market date
  42. Play croquet
  43. Explore new parts of Victoria Park
  44. Host a backyard social
  45. Get gelato from the Gelato Bike
  46. Pre-work plunge in the lake
  47. Post-work plunge in the lake
  48. Go for a run and jump in the water right after
  49. Eat a lobster roll
  50. Eat fish tacos
  51. Have a lunch date at Luke’s
  52. Have a brunch date
  53. Play hooky
  54. Make a Dirty Shirley
  55. Go to Top Gun: Maverick
  56. Visit Birchtown, Nova Scotia
  57. Visit the Noel Shore, Nova Scotia
  58. Yoga outside
  59. Discover a new beach (Mavillette?)
  60. Get 10,000 steps every day
  61. Sow wildflower and lupin seeds at the property
  62. Cheer loudly at a race
  63. See Shakespeare By The Sea
  64. Go prom watching at the Public Gardens
  65. Road trip with friends
  66. Take a ferry
  67. Run along the Rideau Canal
  68. Run and jump off a dock without knowing the temperature of the water
  69. Go to a drive-in movie
  70. Go to a Wanderers game
  71. Go to a Roughriders game
  72. Visit the ocean after work
  73. Camp on our property
  74. Only use the clothesline
  75. Wild Piquette in a can!
  76. Rent a cottage
  77. Drive dad’s side-by-side
  78. Snorkel (or learn to scuba dive) with David
  79. Paint furniture
  80. Apply sunscreen, daily
  81. Buy fresh flowers every week
  82. Squeeze lemons, make lemonade
  83. Bike across the MacDonald Bridge to Dartmouth
  84. Bike across the Alexandria Bridge to Quebec
  85. Make Ricotta Cheesecake with Strawberry-Rhubarb Compote
  86. Eat from a food truck
  87. Try vegetable dyeing
  88. Visit Tatamagouche Ice Creamery (at least once)
  89. Drift down a river
  90. Go berry picking
  91. Go whale watching
  92. Go on a Ghost Walking Tour
  93. Ride the waterslides at the Waeg
  94. Yard sale or have a yard sale
  95. Take a “lunch” walk – get fresh air (daily!)
  96. Organize and play a night game (not game night)
  97. Dole Whip at the Chicken Burger
  98. Watch the sunrise at the ocean
  99. Watch the sunset at the ocean
  100. Watch 500 Days of Summer

Here are my lists from 2021 20202019 2018, 2017, 201620152014

meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • Let’s go plogging (Apartment Therapy)
  • A 63-Year-Old Runner Changed the Way I Think About Regret (NYT)
  • The Sidestroke swimsuit is giving me real Baewatch vibes, and I feel compelled to run slow in the sand wearing this one. The single-shoulder strap makes me feel sassy, and the pleated fabric makes me feel classy – we’ve got ourselves a sassy and classy one folks! – Unphotoshopped Women Honestly Review Summersalt’s 3 Bestselling Swimsuits (Emily Henderson)
  • I am very invested in this for myself: You don’t need a beach house or grandkids to be a “coastal grandmother” — just a white button-down and a zest for life. (BuzzFeed News)
  • Favorite Black Bean Burger (A Couple Cooks)
  • Letters to you future self – I’m going to send a message to my 41-year-old self. I’m going to tell him, truthfully, that I feel grateful for what I have. And remind him that the real challenge of adulthood isn’t getting ahead – but getting back to an understanding that the world is beautiful and limitless. (Guardian)
  •  Lived the #VanLife. It Wasn’t Pretty (NYT)


meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • Fake Pandemic Introvert vs. Real Introvert (New Yorker)
  • I would like this for supper and this for dessert, please
  • The Kids Are Right About Email, Too (NYT)
  • You just might be more productive if you work less – Sometimes, working fewer hours means you can get more done (Fast Company)
  • Math concepts the state of Florida finds objectionable. (McSweeney’s)

Personal memo: Florida, you suck

  • The Obello Lamp. File this under things I want but don’t need (design\milk)
  • If a trans student wants to play sports, it’s just because they want to play sports. We can trust they didn’t choose to come out as trans in order to get some sort of athletic advantage. – Sports are divided by gender because by the time women were allowed to participate, men had already had decades (or centuries!) of training, and almost all current sports were specifically developed with only men in mind. So women were forced into their own categories. There’s also strong evidence that sports are gendered anytime women compete with men directly and threaten the dominance of men. (Design Mom)

This tread:

  • I want ALL the colours! (Free People)
  • Why this psychologist says finding work/life balance is BS (Fast Company)
  • The 50 Best Rom-Coms (The Ringer)
  • Now that we’ve finished Euphoria S2, what is there worth watching? – How “Euphoria” challenges viewers’ expectations of what a television show should be (Salon)
  • Great timing, my birthday is right around the corner! (Food52)

And finally, for anyone outside of Nova Scotia who’s wondering what’s the most Nova Scotian Twitter thread, may I present: