meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • How The Food You Eat Affects Your Brain (swissmiss)
  • Please feel free to share this with any of your anti-vaccine friends (laughing squid)
  • “If you’ve got the time, take the train.” (Austin Kleon)
  • Pickled asparagus (food in jars)
  • My real take on Tata Harper, Drunk Elephant, and The Ordinary… (Cupcake and Cashmere) *I love Drunk Elephant!
  • Bake me your face as fast as you can! (Etsy)
  • Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol – As more young people opt for wellness-oriented lifestyles, brands are offering more nonalcoholic products. (Vox)
  • “Our Planet” is a departure from Attenborough’s previous documentaries. It places global climate catastrophe front and center, and treats the problems of climate change and habitat loss with a new urgency. “The longer we leave it, the more difficult it will be to solve the problem,” (The New Yorker)
  • But… Netflix is lying about those falling walruses. It’s another ‘tragedy porn’ climate hoax (The Financial Post)
  • Everything you know about time management is wrong. (ideas.TED.com)
  • “We’re losing the ability to get stimulation from within and be creative.” (It’s Nice That)
  • Tiny Desk Concerts, although very enjoyable, remind me of a somewhat embarrassing time in my teenage years when there was a private gig in my friend’s parent’s living room. Hardcore fangirling + cute Café Olé boy band = cringe. (NPR)

Have a beautiful weekend!

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was that actually fun?

It’s that time of year when I start thinking about my summer bucket list. Coming up with 100 things is no easy task, and it includes not just things I want to do, but things I should do which got me thinking about stuff that sound fun until you do it.

10 things that feel like a fun idea until I do them:

1. Eating a baked potato: When a baked potato recipe pops up online I think yum!, why don’t I make more baked potatoes? They photograph so well looking all delicious and buttery. The truth is, they’re dry and bland as heck.

2. Tenting: Costs almost as much as a hotel and way less comfortable. I like the idea of camping so much, and even an occasional jaunt through the woods is fun, but I genuinely hate sleeping in a tent. Once I am zipped in, all I can think about it peeing and how much effort it takes to do so. Then I wake with the birds at 5 am and have nowhere to go – it’s too damp in the tent and too cold outside.

3. Ice Skating (at the Oval): Round and round you go on a cold, windy oval. The Halifax Commons is a scar on urban planning – plant some trees to block the wind and add more water fountains, then call me.

4. Running a marathon: I know what you’re thinking, “you’re the one who keeps signing up for them,” which is true but hear me out. They’re so hard, the training takes so much out of you and the actual race in long, but the finish is worth it all. A marathon makes you appreciate the little things in life, like cold chocolate milk.

5. Jumping on a trampoline: Kids really sell this. They always look so happy and carefree effortlessly bouncing up and down, but it’s not that easy, and it quickly reminds you that you are too old to be doing foolish things.

6. Going out dancing (after 8 pm): Like the trampoline, I am too old to be doing foolish things. I would much rather be home, mapping out my next run on mapmyrun.com.

7. Zumba: I love a good barre class, but Zumba was a nightmare (sorry Melissa). I felt like I was on another planet – the moves made no sense; my body rejected me. PS. What’s with all the plaid?

8. Blueberry picking (low bush): Fun fact, my family owned a blueberry field when I was a child. Not so fun memory: The amount of time it took to pick a pint of blueberries. They’re so small which is why strawberries are more my jam. I also have a thing against apple picking but for totally different reasons.

9. Crafting with kids: This was when I realized I am a control freak who does not love sticky messes. Most kids are not great at crafting and all the effort and time it takes to get things set up only leads to a minimal amount of time spent crafting and an aesthetically unpleasing reward.

10. Going to the mall: I have fond memories of roaming Mic Mac Mall, eating Manchu Wok in the food court and buying nothing. Now, however, going to the mall is as fun as going to the doctor – food courts make me nauseous and don’t even get me started on the smell of Cinnabon!

And speaking of my summer bucket list, please let me know if you have some ideas! I may or may not add it to the list; it all depends on if it sounds fun.

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meanwhile, elsewhere

Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.

  • This would be a great birthday gift for someone who’s interested in working on their photography skills, loves to travel and already owns the Fjallraven bookbag (Urban Outfitters)
  • The Best Coffee In Every State (Food & Wine)
  • A New Study Says Gardening Is Just as Good as Going to the Gym – It does some amazing things for your mental health, too! (Martha Stewart)
  • Mom and I hiked near enough to see it’s glory in person and realize we have no business getting any closer (The Dawn Wall Film)
  • Outsourcing adulthood: Who knew that the defining feature of my generation would be our ability to break down cardboard boxes? (The Cut)
  • The bag you carry to the store matters far less than what you carry home inside it and how. Walking or cycling versus driving, and buying locally grown food and less meat will be what actually makes a difference. (The Kitchn)
  • Fashionable outfits for working from home (New Yorker)
  • Barre videos on YouTube (well+good)
  • Internet Boy Band Database… you are welcome (The Pudding)
  • It’s Looking Cloudy (Uncommon Goods)
  • Guilty… I totally prematurely retweeted this, all while signing Soundgarden in my head (NYT)
  • We’re going to this, right:

Have a beautiful weekend!

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david : version 10.0

Just two months short of turning thirty I became a mom and now, ten years later, I am about to turn forty and realizing that the thirties was a rollercoaster ride filled with high, low, fun, scary, sickening, exhilarating, pukey and amazing moments. It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, but I’m happy to report mothering is well worth the ride (so far).

In celebration of David’s tenth birthday tomorrow, here are ten things I’ve learned in ten years of parenting:

1. It goes by so fast or at least that’s what everyone always says. In the big picture, yes but it certainly does not feel that way some days. Like when you’re stuck inside on a rainy day or playing the board game LIFE. Tick, tick, tick.

2. Explore local, travel far. We try and take David on as many trips as possible. He’s pretty lucky and has been to more places than I did by age thirty. It’s not always fun, and certainly not easy, but he’s a kid that learns best by experiences than by the book. Plus, learning how to run through an airport is an important life skill.

3. Get outside. When things go wrong, get outside. As a baby, whenever he’d cry, we’d take him outside – the sky would calm him down. He feeds off sunshine and fresh air; I have no idea who he gets this from.

4a. To each their own. “When are you going to have kids,” “when are you going to have a second,” “you can’t just have one”… We all get our own collection of questions and comments thrown at us. I spent a lot of time reminding myself that it’s what’s best for us, not what’s best for everyone else.
4b. We all have our own battles. David and I struggled with nursing that was my first battle and there have been many more since. No kid is perfect, and no parent has it all figured out. There is no one is judgier than a mom and I can’t say I know how to deal with this, but it made my first year of mothering hard. How I felt, is not how I want anyone else to feel, so I have learned to shut my mouth and let each mom fight their fight.

5. Just set one goal. Each day, each week, each year. Don’t expect too much from your kid and be pleasantly surprised when they overachieved.

6. Lead by example can be both good and bad. I love that David loves sports and being active; however, I am not so proud of his potty mouth. No one to blame but me, I fucked that up.

7. They will excel at some stuff and suck at a lot of other things, but let them try new things. You never know what will spark their fire.

8. Your fears are not their fears. The thought of forming a beatboxing group and performing at the school talent show scares the hell out of me… I can barely handle a conference call but, I appreciate that David follows the no guts no glory philosophy. I hope it sticks, being shy sucks. (note: I should add that your goals are not their goals but I’d be a hypocrite because I’d love for him to excel and math or make the 2030 Olympic Team…)

9. SWIM! It was the only must-do expectation from us. At five months old we tossed him in the pool, and he’s been going strong ever since. We live in Nova Scotia: Canada’s Ocean Playground – it’d be a shame to be beached. Plus, I keep telling him, I wish had been a lifeguard instead of being a hostess at the Honey Garlic Buffet when I was young.

10. Sit back, spectate and enjoy the ride. Now that we’re ten years in, I try and avoid hovering as much as possible from what he wears (questionable) to how he interacts with others (questionable). I’m channeling the free-range vibe and hoping he figures things out on his own. I trust him and most of the time, David has proven that he’s capable of making smart decisions.

Happy birthday David! xomeg