meanwhile, elsewhere

It’s Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.


  • Why we should aim to read better, not more (AnOther)
  • Oh, so this is what I am supposed to do with the flaxseed I bought… (Bustle)
  • She realized that dinner parties were a seemingly casual way to invite boys you might be interested in over so you could talk to them without a beer pong paddle in hand… What’s your reason? Why hosting a monthly dinner party is a great new year resolution! (The Dinner Party Resolution)
  • “… it’s weird to be so open with a stranger. It’s like you’re acting vulnerable, but not actually being vulnerable with someone you don’t know and don’t care very much about. It’s not a problem for meIt’s just — odd. Odd, and not even really fun.” (NYT)
  • From Nova to Bodhi—the top baby names of the decade (Mother)
  • When life gives you winter, make lemonade (Joy The Baker)
  • Perhaps this is a good alternative to my on-going pursuit of finding the perfect black cardigan (Cupcakes & Cashmere)
  • I can also confidently say that if you’re not soaking in your own filth, even just occasionally, you’re missing out. Baths Are the Coffee of the Evening and More People Should Take Them. (Man Repeller)
  • Taste Atlas for the foodies on the go
  • The Meat-Lover’s Guide to Eating Less Meat (NYT) and a handy chart for roasting veg (NYTCooking)
  • “I’d love to get them into my office.” A Couples Therapist Analyzes the Marriage in Marriage Story (The Atlantic)
  • Where to watch all 53 of the 2020 Oscar-nominated films. (Mashable) PS. As of today, I’ve watched 28.5/53 (my Instagram MOVIE highlights)
  • With that being said, a lot of the documentaries and shorts are available to stream for free and they are so good! These three really stood out for me (so far): For Sama, Learning to Skateboard in a Warzone (If You’re a Girl) and Nefta Football Club

It’s the weekend, you’ve reached your destination.

(Photograph by Beuford Smith via here)

When I Was Ten

Age 10 is a developmental sweet spot. You’re old enough to know what lights you up, yet not so old that adults have extinguished that fire by dumping more practical and “realistic” options on it.

Here’s Why Living Out Your Dreams from When You Were 10 Is the Key to Happiness (Reader’s Digest)

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When I was ten, I loved drawing houses and I wanted to be an architect. I clearly remember, however, the two events that changed my career path and I often wondered if things would be different if they didn’t happen.

1: It was the job-shadowing day in junior high and I got hooked up with an architect. It was kind of boring, but he was a commercial architect and I knew I was going to design houses—that’s until I met a drafter in the office and he looked me in the eyes and said, “don’t do this”. Yikes!

As scary as that was to hear, I stuck with my dream and took a Communications Technology class in high school. I had a ton of fun and even won the class award! This was 1995, a pre-computer era that included film photography (not digital!) and drafting with a ruler and pencil.

It turned out that drafting IS fun, and I was actually good at it! I spent a whole semester painstakingly designing blueprints for a house and was told by my teacher, Mr Vacheresse, that I had an excellent perception of measurement! Life was looking up and architecture was back on the drawing table.

2. That’s until grade 12 when the guidance counsellor told me math was not my strength. Architecture is all math, so perhaps I should reconsider my career path.

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Now, as a “self-employed, stay-at-home, freelance designer”, I feel like I let my ten-year-old self down. Would I have become an architect if I listened to the kind encouragements from Mr Vacheresse instead of the guidance councillor? I am not sure being an architect was the right calling but as I enter my midlife season, it has certainly had me wondering what the heck I am doing and more importantly what should/could I be doing?

Last fall on a girl’s weekend away, Sarah asked “If there was a job that’d you think you’d be really good at, what would it be” *Note* She didn’t ask, what do you want to do. This question has not left my mind since, and I don’t have an answer but, this is what I know:

  • I am not great at drawing
  • I do have an excellent perception of measurement
  • Print never died even though I was told it would many times
  • Love thy work people, love thy work
  • I can make a space look good
  • I still suck at math
  • Don’t listen to grumpy men
  • High school guidance counsellors are not know-it-alls
  • I’d be an excellent personal assistant
  • I would rather do layout design than create a logo
  • I love big cities but love the ocean more
  • I have slight envy towards the postal workers who get paid to walk
  • My preferred position is standing next to the person in the spotlight
  • I like writing and photography and wish I was stronger at both
  • I wish my job allowed me to be outside
  • I’d rather be volunteering

How about you, what did you want to be at age ten? And, if I haven’t already asked you, “If there was a job that’d you think you’d be really good at, what would it be”?

I want to know!

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As I write this, it’s not lost on me that my child is ten. I asked what he wants to be when he grows up and he said a mechanical engineer that works on cars, outside. Yikes, that’s a lot of math… but I am not saying anything!

Age 10-11 (Erica, Melissa, Maria, Me, Sarah)

meanwhile, elsewhere

It’s Friday’s online finds: Cozy up and dig in.


  • Her treatment has proved what many of us have always known: No matter how beautiful you are, whom you marry, what palaces you occupy, charities you support, how faithful you are, how much money you accumulate or what good deeds you perform, in this society racism will still follow you. (NYT)
  • ‘Like sending bees to war’: the deadly truth behind your almond-milk obsession (The Guardian)
  • I’ve been loving oat milk in my smoothies and granola these days (CBC)
  • Gen X Women Get Less Sleep Than Any Other Generation. What’s Keeping Them Up? (TIME)
  • “I think I’m having a midlife crisis” (Rambling Renovators)
  • #16: Dogs Have The Biggest Heart Relative To Their Body… Obviously! (Bored Panda)
  • Hair Love, one of the Oscar-nominated animated short films is on YouTube. I suggest you give yourself seven minutes to watch it.
  • These make lovely travel albums (Chatbooks)
  • Can the Fitness Industry and Body Positivity Coexist? (medium)
  • Canada is a big country. We have big hearts but a small population. Nearly everyone killed was an immigrant. But nobody’s talking about that. Our headlines focus on the fact that they were Canadians, with deep roots here, who touched countless lives. The way it should be. (Twitter)
  • Hah! So true. I am still recovering. (The Cut)
  • “You should only wear one ‘nice’ piece of clothing at a time… Otherwise it’s too much. Too dressed,” Larry David says. “You have to be half-dressed. That’s my fashion theory, since you asked: Half Is More.” (Man Repeller)
  • Seasonal Depression Can Occur Any Time of Year (Life Hacker)
  • This one is for you, fellow design nerds (Paper Sizes)
  • This one is for you, fellow word nerds: “The ignorance and laziness present in modern times have won!” (The Washington Post)
  • This one is for you, my running besties (Yoga with Adriene)
  • This one is for you, my Dry January friends: How Do I Make Plans Without ‘Getting a Drink’? (The Cut)

Have a swell weekend. We are past halfway through January – I’ll drink to that!

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